Vacation Lessons

My husband and I took a week's vacation which turned out very different from what was planned. The plan was to sail for 6 days in our 30 foot Nonesuch named So Far So Good (appropriate name for 2 people who make one whole sailor). Then business had to be attended to. Then Hurrican Earl was predicted and then fizzled out, making us unhappy we hadn't sailed anyway. We have friends who need a time, a destination and their expectations met every step of the way. They are not sailors; sailors cannot control the wind direction, the current, wave height or the weather. Sailors get up, find out if the wind will take them to their planned destination, and if not, they change direction.
A colleague has a training business in Alzheimer care. Her motto is: You can't change the wind, but you can adjust your sails. So true. Often the change brings unexpected joys. It made me think how often plans get changed when you are a caregiver for someone with Alzheimer's. Often you can't plan easily, as so much can interrupt well laid plans when you're a caregiver. Many unexpected 'happenings' can alter plans. How do you handle the uncertainty? I think the successful caregiver is flexible and kind of loosey-goosey, not rattled by change, able to switch gears easily.
Our vacation took a new twist. We were not on the water. We took day trips;one to Norman Rockwell's Museum in Stockbridge (a delightful trip), one to Maine to LL Bean and favorite haunts for good seafood (clam cakes), and on the last day we toured our own city Quincy in a trolley to visit the Adams Mansion and John and John Quincy's birthplaces. It was reminiscent of our dating days, driving, easily chatting and having good meals together. It turned out to be a restful vacation after all; not what we'd planned, but delightful nontheless. Can you approach your caregiving experience like that? It would help to learn to.